If you happened to pick up the phone and give me a ring asking if I were home so that you could swing by for a chat in about 10 minutes, I would be thrilled! After all, you and I are friends! We’ve been through a lot over the past year or so as you’ve looked into my personal life on this blog. A few things would happen as soon as I sat the phone down though. We’re good friends, and you’re just dropping by, but I would want to make myself somewhat presentable and my house in less of an extreme uproar.
I’d probably head to the bathroom first, brush my teeth or at least throw a piece of gum into my mouth. Next I’d run a brush through my hair. It may go right into a pony tail, but at least it’s been brushed once in the past 24 hours! I wouldn’t bother too much with make-up. A quick 15 seconds of eyeliner and mascara should do the trick. I’d turn around the room, make sure there’s toilet paper on the roll and that the toilet’s been flushed. Next I’d head into my room and throw on a clean t-shirt and swipe some deodorant under my arms. You probably wouldn’t mind seeing my milk/oatmeal/bean splattered shirt, but I have been wearing it for a little too long.
After making myself somewhat presentable, my eyes would scan the floor in the living room to make ensure that no large objects would trip you as you walked into the house. I’d clean a spot of the couch for you to sit, and maybe even light a good smelling candle or turn on my diffuser.
When you arrived at the door, I’d greet you with a smile and a hug. After asking if you’d like something to drink, we’d have a nice little chat. So, are you ready to come visit?
Each morning my husband leaves to work a grueling 8-10 hours for our family. As the day progresses, my anticipation rises knowing that the time of his arrival home nears. When he walks through the door, I know that he doesn’t care if the house is wrecked, my hair a mess, and my clothes unchanged since he drove away. He loves me and our home and family no matter what.
On the other hand… why should I treat you – a dear friend, yes, but not my husband and main earthly priority – better than this man who’s been working all day for me? Shouldn’t I show him more love, more concern, and more attention than others?
Matt calls me when he leaves his office each day. This gives me between 50 and 60 minutes to start dinner and tidy myself, Abigail, and the house. You may not have that much time, but at least you should have a general idea of when your man will be home. Does this mean our home and I are always looking spotless upon his arrival? Ha! No way! But I at least try to give a little attention to these things so that he can feel comfortable and relaxed when he walks in the door.
If you know your man, you probably have an idea of the things he notices around the house. Matt frequently comments when the dishes are done and my hair isn’t a mess. Toys scattered around the floor or the bathroom counter cluttered don’t capture his attention at all. I try to make sure that the former two things are taken care of as he drives home. If you’re not sure what your man would appreciate most, ask him! I also try to pray and have a joyful heart for my man. Sometimes the days are long and lonely at home, but I want to give my man a reason to drive to me, not make him dread the foul mood woman waiting for him!
One of my goals is to make sure that my husband feels safe, comfortable, and loved when he’s in our home. This doesn’t mean my home is ever close to perfect. It does mean, however, that when my hard working, hunk of a man comes into our abode, I’ve put in some effort to make him feel at home and sense my gratefulness for all he does!
It’s better to live alone in the corner of an attic than with a quarrelsome wife in a lovely home.